“That’s not fair!” How often do you hear it? If your kids are anything like mine, you hear it a lot. One day I got sick of telling them that “Life isn’t fair.” It didn’t seem to be registering. So instead, we started to tell our kids that in our family, fair does not mean equal. If one of us has to get a shot, we don’t ALL get shots. Only the person who NEEDS the shot gets it. The underlying principle is that everyone in the family will get what they need, and that needs are different from wants.